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TRYOUT PERSPECTIVE
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 THIS IS A POST FROM 2015 AND IT IS STILL HOW I FEEL TODAY.

LANCE PHAIR
TCV Co-Director

As the director of Team Colorado this time of year, tryout season, is the toughest time of year for me personally. I love this sport and I love the people and the kids involved with it. A large percentage of directors and coaches choose to be disengaged from the families because it is easier to make tough decisions when you are not personally connected with the athlete or the family. For me doing this job would not be worth it if it were not for relationships that I have built over the years. However, with those relationships come certain perils. Most notably, when an athlete does not get selected for the team they desire or think they deserve to be a part of. Make no mistake I value the relationships that have been built over the years, but my first responsibility to Team Colorado is to put the best teams we can on the floor. Just as I am still friends with athletes and families that have chosen to leave TCV I hope that friendships don’t suffer when an athlete is not placed on the team they desire. Along these lines I want to discuss two topics: Dreams vs Effort and the TCV family.

DREAMS vs. EFFORT

As a father I have had several discussions with my kids about dreams vs effort. I personally want to be 195 lbs. and in good shape, but I don’t eat the proper diet and I don’t have a regular workout routine.  As a result I am 20 lbs heavier than I want to be and want to pass out if I play a few matches of the game I love. In our house one repeated discussion is the fact that your dreams are not matching your effort. When that is the case one of two things need to happen. You either need to change your dream or you need to change your effort. I repeatedly tell my kids that you can change your dreams at any time. They are not my dreams and I don’t want to make my hopes and dreams for my children their hopes and dreams they need to own those for themselves.

I have talked to several athletes and parents over the summer and several of the conversations start like this, “Sally really wants to make the national team”. If that is indeed the dream then the question becomes did Sally put in the effort to make that happen? If not then the dream is only that a dream. If Sally put in some effort, but it was the same effort that someone else put in then she did not get any better in relation to that other player. You have to out effort your competition to have a chance. Natural ability plays a role in everything, but if you want to reach your full potential then you must apply your full effort. Now to be clear there is absolutely nothing wrong with just wanting to play this game because you love the game. I want athletes like this because at the end of the day the goal at TCV is to not only build a better volleyball player but most importantly a better person, and teaching these young women to align their effort with their goals is one of many ways we can build a better person.

MARK CUBAN'S THOUGHTS ON THIS TOPIC

TCV FAMILY

                Since Kyong and I have taken over the director duties of TCV we have spoken and wrote about the TCV Family. We truly want this to be like an extended family. Over the next year you will spend more time with the people in this club and specifically the other families on your team than you will with anyone that does not live in your home. The big question that I have been asked generally goes something like this, “Since we are part of the TCV family what does that mean to my daughter and being placed on a team?” To me it is quite simple. If there are two athletes one has been part of TCV and one is coming to TCV for the first time and they are equally matched the tie goes to the TCV athlete every time. We are doing our best to build competitive teams yet reward dedication to the club as much as possible. We have to find that balance and at the end of the day we want to build the trust of each of the families involved with this club.

Posted by Lance P. on 07/03/2018
    
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